Parenting Pressures

October 13, 2017

“Guys! I’m eating junk and watching rubbish.

You’d better come out and stop me!”

                                                                                      Macaulay Culkin:  ‘Home Alone’

My early childhood was idyllic. I will probably have every parenting counsellor banging at my door when they read this, but I thrived on neglect. My sister and I regarded our home as some sort of motel, where we ate and slept in between wandering off to school. We were left to do pretty much as we pleased. My parents were busy people – they had a whopping great mortgage, which required the two of them to work all hours. My mother spent what little spare time she had, nursing her bunions whilst making vast pans of chips, and my Dad, watching Liverpool play (they were a good team in those days!).

Every so often, my parents would take us OUT FOR THE DAY! To me, there was nothing more horrific than bouncing along in the back of our Fiat 500, feeling sick and wondering if we would ever get the Rhyll. Fortunately these bouts of parental guilt would only last a few hours, and then my sister and I were free once again to roam, like savages, through the fields around our house.

I have often described the high emotional tension many families are under due to the perceived pressures of modern parenthood. These days, childhood is regarded as a huge responsibility, and falls squarely on the shoulders of parents. When the going gets tough, school support seems to fall away, reflecting the current lack of resourcing and expertise.

Recently two of my families have had an extremely difficult time getting the appropriate support for their dyslexic child. As the lines of communication disappear, the feelings of hopelessness and isolation mount. It is vital to appreciate and work with what you have.

Who is listening to you – your partner, the teacher, a classroom assistant, the Head-teacher? If anyone is listening, then work on keeping those lines of communication open to get the support you need. If you feel no-one can hear you, then step up. Find out about your area Educational Psychologist and ask for advice. Phone the local authority and ask to speak to someone responsible for Special Educational Needs. And if all that fails, go to SENDIASS. The LEA is required to recognise the work that this independent body does in supporting parents.

We are looking at Transition, and how your child can best cope with moving on. Part of the process is making sure that you have the best possible support available for your child. As a lone voice, this is sometimes difficult.

So – if you are not happy – go on – rattle a few cages.

You’ll be a stronger person for it!

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